Asian-American Couples

Asian-American Couples Bible Study in Springfield, Virginia is hosted by Walt and Rosie Okon. The Asian-American Couples Bible Study is a seminar study based on the "Family Life" Home Builders, Couples Series. The title of this series is Communications In Your Marriage.
Asian-American Couples Bible Study
Event: Couples Bible Study 
Day:    Monday 
Date:   09 December 2002 
Time:  7:30 PM 
Place:  Walt & Rosie's Home 
http://www.waltokon.com/Asian.html 

Our study is taken from the Home Builders Couples Series by Dennis Rainey. 



Ice Breaker Question:
Do you really know what your spouse would like for Christmas?  ========================================================================= 

Title:  Barriers to Communications In Your Marriage, from the Home Builders Couples Series by Dr. Gary and Barbara Rosberg.
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Our Study Book:  2002
Improving Communication in Your Marriage: Study Guide by Dr. Gary Rosberg and Barbara Rosberg

These Six sessions are designed to bring husbands and wives closer to each other and to God.  You will recognize and understand the barriers to good communication; learn ways to make your relationship a priority; discover practical steps for resolving conflict; and increase spiritual intimacy as you seek God together.   The leader for each session is
1. Understanding the Barriers to Communication:  Walt and Rosie Okon
2. Making Your Relationship a Priority:: Harris and Madeline Huckabee
3. Communication 101:  Blaine and Itsuko Asato
4. "Closing the Loop" in Conflict:  John and Luz Hurbut
5. Communicating Through the Trials of Life: Jm and Vivian West
6. Achieving Spiritual Intimacy:  Robert and Monina Davids
This study is great for experienced groups! 
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We are continuing our study “Communications In Your Marriage” Monday night on 12 December 2002, This session is on "Communications" Page 23 of your books.

HomeBuilders Principles
God Wants you to have consistently truthful and open communications with your spouse.


Make a Date:
Do this As a couple first:
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After taking your Make a Date Test, answer these questions:

How easy is it for your to acknowledge your barriers to effective communications?

Can you now define some of the barriers to effective communications that you can personal remove?

In what ways to you both complement each other in strengthening communications?

In what ways to you both contribute to each other in allowing barriers to exist?

What areas of improvement would you like to focus?  Name them:
a.
b.
c.

What is the one thing you can do this coming week to overcome a communications barrier?


Scripture on communications:
Eph 4:14-16
15 Instead, speaking the truth in love, we will in all things grow up into him who is the Head, that is, Christ. 16 From him the whole body, joined and held together by every supporting ligament, grows and builds itself up in love, as each part does its work.

Eph 4:25-28
25 Therefore each of you must put off falsehood and speak truthfully to his neighbor, for we are all members of one body. 26 "In your anger do not sin": Do not let the sun go down while you are still angry, 27 and do not give the devil a foothold. 28 He who has been stealing must steal no longer, but must work, doing something useful with his own hands, that he may have something to share with those in need. 

Eph 5:3-7
3 But among you there must not be even a hint of sexual immorality, or of any kind of impurity, or of greed, because these are improper for God's holy people. 4 Nor should there be obscenity, foolish talk or coarse joking, which are out of place, but rather thanksgiving. 5 For of this you can be sure: No immoral, impure or greedy person-such a man is an idolater-has any inheritance in the kingdom of Christ and of God.  6 Let no one deceive you with empty words, for because of such things God's wrath comes on those who are disobedient. 7 Therefore do not be partners with them. 

Eph 5:15-20
15 Be very careful, then, how you live-not as unwise but as wise, 16 making the most of every opportunity, because the days are evil. 17 Therefore do not be foolish, but understand what the Lord's will is. 18 Do not get drunk on wine, which leads to debauchery. Instead, be filled with the Spirit. 19 Speak to one another with psalms, hymns and spiritual songs. Sing and make music in your heart to the Lord, 20 always giving thanks to God the Father for everything, in the name of our Lord Jesus Christ. 


Mathew Henry Comment:
Eph 5:18-20
2. Instead of being filled with wine, he exhorts them to be filled with the Spirit. Those who are full of drink are not likely to be full of the Spirit; and therefore this duty is opposed to the former sin. The meaning of the exhortation is that men should labor for a plentiful measure of the graces of the Spirit, that would fill their souls with great joy, strength, and courage, which things sensual men expect their wine should inspire them with. We cannot be guilty of any excess in our endeavors after these: nay, we ought not to be satisfied with a little of the Spirit, but to be aspiring after measures, so as to be filled with the Spirit. Now by this means we shall come to understand what the will of the Lord is; for the Spirit of God is given as a Spirit of wisdom and of understanding. And because those who are filled with the Spirit will be carried out in acts of devotion, and all the proper expressions of it, therefore the apostle exhorts,

3. To sing unto the Lord, v. 19. Drunkards are wont to sing obscene and profane songs. The heathens, in their Bacchanalia, used to sing hymns to Bacchus, whom they called the god of wine. Thus they expressed their joy; but the joy of Christians should express itself in songs of praise to their God. In these they should speak to themselves in their assemblies and meetings together, for mutual edification. By psalms may be meant David's psalms, or such composures as were fitly sung with musical instruments. By hymns may be meant such others as were confined to matter of praise, as those of Zacharias, Simeon, etc. Spiritual songs may contain a greater variety of matter, doctrinal, prophetical, historical, etc. Observe here,

(1.) The singing of psalms and hymns is a gospel ordinance: it is an ordinance of God, and appointed for his glory.

(2.) Though Christianity is an enemy to profane mirth, yet it encourages joy and gladness, and the proper expressions of these in the professors of it. God's people have reason to rejoice, and to sing for joy. They are to sing and to make melody in their hearts; not only with their voices, but with inward affection, and then their doing this will be as delightful and acceptable to God as music is to us: and it must be with a design to please him, and to promote his glory, that we do this; and then it will be done to the Lord.

4. Thanksgiving is another duty that the apostle exhorts to, v. 20. We are appointed to sing psalms, etc., for the expression of our thankfulness to God; but, though we are not always singing, we should never want a disposition for this duty, as we never want matter for it. We must continue it throughout the whole course of our lives; and we should give thanks for all things; not only for spiritual blessings enjoyed, and eternal ones expected (for what of the former we have in hand, and for what of the other we have in hope), but for temporal mercies too; not only for our comforts, but also for our sanctified afflictions; not only for what immediately concerns ourselves, but for the instances of God's kindness and favor to others also. It is our duty in every thing to give thanks unto God and the Father, to God as the Father of our Lord Jesus Christ and our Father in him, in whose name we are to offer up all our prayers, and praises, and spiritual services, that they may be acceptable to God.

(from Matthew Henry's Commentary on the Whole Bible: New Modern Edition, Electronic Database. Copyright (c) 1991 by Hendrickson Publishers, Inc.)



Session #2.  Making Your Relationship a Priority:: Harris and Madeline Huckabee will lead Session #2.

We will take Prayer Request: 

Here are this week's prayer requests: 

Walt & Rosie . . . 
1) - Pray for our nephew Bobby as he travels to California in search of a job and someone to sponsor him for a H-1 Visa.

2).  Pray for Cherish Lee who has taken the GC exam for nursing and waiting for her test results.  Pray that she passes.

3).  Pray for "Faith Unlimited" who have completed their singing tour of the United States and are returning to their home in the Philippines.
http://www.waltokon.com/FaithUnlimited.html

4).  Pray for Lien Tsans who is having a baby in a month.  Pray for the health of the Baby and Mother.
5).  Pray for Walt Okon who is taking his final exam in Computer System Engineering.

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Harris and Madeline . . . 
1). - Praise the Lord.  Madeline’s Mom from Jolo Philippines, Evelyn is here safe and we are enjoying her being with us. 
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1). Pray for Vivian’s Father as he is still in poor health. 
2).  Pray for Jim’s Dad as he is still in poor health. 
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Blaine and Itsuko Asato
1).  Pray for Itsuko's brother who lost his business and is now working a difficult and dangerous outdoor job.
2).  Pray for a stress free Christmas Holiday.
3).  Pray for The United States, our Government and President who have to deal with the issue od WAR in Iraq.

In His Service, 

Wall and Rosie 
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